Hello, how do you do? My name is Victoria S. I live in London, England. I used to know very little about ‘alternative lifestyles’, beyond a couple of sex and fetish parties I might have gone to just to stare. And reading Fifty Shades. Yes, I confess, I read it. In my defense, I thought it was rubbish.
My curiosity built over a couple of years back home, but I didn’t really get a chance to engage more proactively until this year. You know how it starts: a bit of vanilla spanking, you like how it feels… You buy some kinky boots because they make you feel sexy, you find a party to go to where you can wear them… And before you know it, you’re flogging behinds at the annual Fetish and Fantasy Halloween Ball in Las Vegas!
It all started in earnest at Burning Man this year. I went there with Mister Bill, whom I had met there last year, and a bunch of his friends from Dragon’s Gate. That’s how I had the pleasure of meeting the full cast from Bliss Bringers: Mistress SinD, Reverend Jon, Professor Tea and The Captain.
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Another "recap episode", where SinD and Jon try to remember all the adventures since last time! First up is BondCon, a new conference at "The Armory", home of "Kink.com". We meet various famous educators, but the misses was most impressed with "Thraje" and Cléo Dubois, and the single-tail whipping skills of "Disciple".
We visit Folsom Street Faire and interview random victims (to great amusement). It turns out that bi-males do exist!
Misses also adopted a (human submissive) pet, and took her to a swingers party. This put a spotlight on the differences between protocols and appropriate behavior between the swinger and BDSM/kink communities. In the later, there is a more strict enforcement of the "ask for consent first" rule, which sometimes gets forgotten by the experienced swingers. Also, one has to make sure that one scene does not take so long that one doesn't get laid. "Cock-blocking" may have occurred, and Jon got the woman with "worlds most impressive ass" in trouble.
We use Google Calendar to schedule play-dates/training sessions. Does that mean we are now poly?
The Swing Wife (Podfaded)
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Midori is a sexuality author
, speaker and educator who teaches about alternative and adventurous sexual practices, including the sensual art of bondage and BDSM. She grew up in Tokyo until her teenage years and was raised with feminist values. Midori has a degree in Psychology from Berkeley University and she served in the US army reserves as an intelligence officer. She's an educator and columnist on adventurous sexuality, is a published book author and has a couple of DVDs available. Her mission as a world traveler in presenting to universities and educational seminars encourages self discovery and personal growth. Midori is a world renowned Shibari rope bondage instructor, kink educator, safer sex practitioner and a sex positive activist. When she's not on tour or instructing sold out classes, Midori is a performing & installation artist in San Francisco. She's also known for being a foodie and has a humorous warm personality. She is well respected for her long time volunteer efforts and fight against AIDS--her goal is to see this decease wiped out and prevent any more loss of friends & family members; Last month she volunteered as a Roadie in the Cycle for Life tour in California.
HOT OFF THE PRESS-This just came in from the ever amazing, sensual rope master, Midori:
There are 3 spots left for the next Rope Dojo and this class is sure to sell out! The Rope Dojo is open to only a small group of participants in a private 2 day course with hands on training from Midori and her team of rope experts.
We personally attended one of Midori's Rope Dojo weekends and we highly recommend this class for couples and individuals looking to sharpen their skills in creating rope bondage and sexy decorative harnesses. This class is held only twice a year and sells out every time!
Location: The Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco
Midori and her cadre have a unique and fun way of teaching Shibari, rope, kink and everything around it, using the history, the theory, their personal stories and hands-on instructions. Girls, this is a great class for you too,not just the boys!
Sign up here
Mention "Blissbringers" during sign-up
This video shows one of our favorite ties we learned from Midori (it's great for showing off at play parties 🙂 ) and it gives a great impression of the teaching style.
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The entire Bliss Bringer team descends upon Niagara falls, Ontario for a weekend of swinger fun at the Valentines in Niagara event. We demonstrate the "15 minute orgasm" to a packed room of rowdy swingers and train timid (sorta) wives in the art of "female dominance".
Professor Tea works her "queens walk" on the local swingers, with great success and the team takes over the "dungeon" and starts schooling the swingers in the ways of kink with bondage training and violet wand demonstrations.
Reverend Jon takes up the microphone and gets the naughtiest confessions out: From wide-eyed newbies, to aspiring kinksters, to dual-penetration fanatics, from spankings to screaming orgasms, you get to hear it direct and uncut.
I’m nervous. Tiff called and told me to be ready for dinner and “a surprise”. A car will pick me up at 6:00 tonight.
No big deal, right?
Well, then she texted me a VERY specific list of what I’m to wear…
• Sheer black stockings
• Black lace garter belt (good thing I had one!)
• Black heels
• “The dress and accessories that will be delivered this afternoon” (I’m thinking WTF???!?)
• You will NOT wear a bra.
• DO NOT PLEASURE YOURSELF AT ALL TODAY (gasp!)
So, I don’t think she’s planning a playdate for us, but I could be wrong. Why such specific instructions on how to dress if not?
I go about my day, but I’m distracted. I can hardly focus on work. While on a call with my boss, the doorbell rings. I answer the door and my jaw drops. There is a delivery man at my door. He’s holding an expensive-looking garment bag with a small gift bag hanging around the hanger.
Once I gather my wits, I excuse myself from the call for a moment and accept the package. There’s a card that says “Do not open until 5pm. Period.”
Now, I really can’t focus. Thankfully, it’s almost 5, so not much longer to wait.
I finish my work, shut down my link to work, and head for the bedroom.
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Jon and Sind are back from "Dark Odyssey: Surrender", a 3 day event in San Francisco with training, demos and play-parties with the who's-who of kink. They visited classes on "fisting", "scene negotiation", "rough sex" and "erotic publishing", which are just a small part of what was available.
After Mistress SinD gets her first take of receiving a whipping, we interview "Zemis", master (and instructor) of the single-tail whips and various other sorts of mindfucks. We discuss mediation by whipping, perverted clowns and sonic booms.
We talk latex with Penny from Lust Designs: how she designs the outfits (from mermaids to bowling shirts), how to pick them, how to lube up and get into them.
Every good kinkster needs a kilt (or a couple), so we hang out with PD Kilts and try out their warez, so we learn about the different styles and weights of kilts.
brings their own arsenal of toys, from "fluffy" to "mean and nasty", including our first-ever floggers.
And if you are looking for some classy rope for your bondage scenes, do look at the colorful options of "Rainbow rope
schools us on canes, their usage and the different styles you can get: from light-up canes to canes with your favorite football team or cartoon character. These are not your old school teachers canes; they are made from various high-tech materials like carbon fiber, fiber glass, aluminum, stainless steal depending on your need.
Mistress SinD has a blast testing out the new Violet wand accessories from Big Head Studios
. The custom electrodes they create range from "festive" to "impressive" to "darn that left a mark!". We discuss the various unique types of electrodes, the history of the violet wand, and the fun of zapping people in the balls.
Los Swingers, a podcast in Spanish and English about a couple's adventures in the swinging lifestyle. They also do great jello shots. Update 2015: Sadly, the podcast no longer exists.
Also: During playtime, we tied up Miss Penzer
on a barrel and took turns smacking her. She liked it.