Swinger? Polyamorous? Be heard, earn prizes!

We are taking a short break from our regularly schedules debauchery to point you to some serious science stuff going on!

The Open Relationships Project is doing a study and they need your help.   Give them a couple minutes of your time to help people understands your lifestyle.  It doesn't cost anything, you may even win some!

 

Open Relationships Project

Relationship Quality for Non-Monogamous Couples Study: Do Motives Matter?

Romantic relationships have a profound impact on physical and mental health (e.g., Kiecolt-Glaser & Newton, 2001). People in long-term romantic relationships often rely on their romantic partners to meet a broad range of psychological needs; including emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, social support, acceptance, and personal growth; as well as practical needs, such as co-parenting children and co-managing finances and households. However, modern romantic relationships may in fact be suffocating under these demands, as society encourages unrealistic expectations about a single person’s ability to meet such a broad range of needs simultaneously (Finkel, Hui, Carswell, & Larson, 2014).

CNM is an umbrella term that includes open relationships (sex without love without a partner’s participation is okay), swinging (focus on having sex without love) and polyamory (focus on loving more than one person) (Matsick, Conley, Ziegler, Moors, & Rubin, 2013).

People in CNM relationships have been shown to enjoy similar levels of relationship quality to those in monogamous relationships. CNM relationships rank similarly in terms of sexual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, closeness, trust and commitment (Seguin, Blais, Goyer, Adam, Lavoie, Rodrigue, Magontier, 2016).

The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab under the direction of Samantha Joel PhD., are looking for participants in monogamous relationships who are currently considering opening up their relationships (but have yet to do so) to take a survey. We are looking for individuals who have never opened up and individuals who have opened up in the past but are currently with one partner and are planning on opening up again. This study is looking at understanding how people choose to open their relationships and what their experiences of this relationship transition look like.

If you or anyone you know fits our qualifications, we invite you to take this survey. Not only will you be furthering science, but you will be entered to win a $100 Amazon gift card.

What are you waiting for?  Be heard!

 

51: Just Hanging Out

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SinD, Reverend Jon, Bill and Alice hang out together in this post-action debrief bedcast.  It was Alice's first visit to a BDSM dungeon (we took her to "Dragon's Gate" in Los Angeles), where she got tied up and suspended, and had all sorts of things done to her.    We give our updates and review our progress in the lifestyles of BDSM, Swinging and polyamory.

 

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49: Spanking new relationships: The scale from swinging to polyamory

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Mister Bill, Jon and SinD first debrief about  Fetish and Fantasy event, then about their various polyamorous and swinging relationships.   Bill does an inventory of his relationships and reviews how they are similar but different.

Jon interviews a brand-new member of the "Dragon's Gate" gang, who at her young age has dived deep into kink and her various turn-ons.

Back home, the newly formed poly gang (SinD, Jon, Night owl) debriefs about the changes in their relationship.

This episode is a bit different from the usual form, as we give our unfiltered feelings an thoughts on the journey throughout the various forms of non-monogamy.

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48: Puppies and Massages

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Exploring polyamory, BDSM and kink in the swinging lifestyle.

We catch up with Mr. and Misses Puppy (see previous episodes for background).  The first interview is right after a hotel playdate with Mr, Misses Puppy, and L  a.k.a. "Mr. Puppy's new toy".

In second part,  debrief with "Nightowl", the poor massage therapist (and general fun kinky guy) that SinD corrupted.

We go over the difference between the different lifestyles: swinging versus polyamory, BDSM communication styles versus those used in the swinging lifestyle.   Jon explains and demos some of his secret techniques on air on Misses Puppy.

Yes, there was wine consumed during the taping. 🙂

37: 2 Girls, 1 City: Practical polyamory in London

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SinD and Victoria share their hazy recollections of a weekend together in London and debrief their raw feelings, straight from the heart: The fun of of partying, and the messiness of polyamory.

Subjects discussed:
  • Signing up for OkCupid, getting too many responses to manage
  • Getting the wrong address
  • Practical polyamory also involves talking to the wife and telling dinosaur adventures to the kids .
  • Rocking out in London dance clubs
  • 3-way make-outs
  • SinD hunting 18 year-olds, and going into "Wicked tigger" mode
  • Trying to dampen sexual frustration with Mc Donald's food (Hint: It doesn't work!)
  • Leaving the kids with blue balls
  • Jealousy (Or just trying to fit in)
  • Organizing threesomes can be more complicated than initially expected
  • The girls define their sexuality as "situational"
  • How abuse as a child impacts the feelings and decisions later in life
  • A relationship with a married man
  • Lessons learned and tips for those starting in polyamory

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24: Fetish & Fantasy: Spanking asses and taking names

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fetishfantasylogoLike every year, Jon and SinD hit Vegas.... quite literally.   During the annual Fetish and Fantasy ball, they volunteer to spank the multitude of party-goers that show up and this huge "rave".

During the pre-game events there was (swinger) partying going on in both the Hard Rock hotel and the Rumor hotel. A friendly Mistress rented out the "swinger suite" (we kid you not) and the neighboring rooms for an epic swinger/kink party. from bondage to spankings to rough sex and latex, every fetish was explored in detail.

We give our reports and we interview over a dozen people and get their colorful opinion.  We talk to everybody from pro-dommes, experts in spankings, pain-sluts to wide-eyes clueless newbies, from  the polyamarous to the horny bastards.
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