38: Naughty in Nawlins and on boats

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We had a long chat with Bob Hannaford (half of the infamous "Bob & Tess" team), famous for creating spectacular events and cruises.

Bob talks about the swinging lifestyle, being naked (pretty much a requirement to survive in New Orleans) and having a great time at a convention. They stared with having 100 couples, now their events welcome more than 800 couples each.  Instead of creating one big event, they create a cluster of smaller activities, so that everybody can find their own thing.

The culture of New Orleans is very open to all walks of life.  Bob has been organizing a parade during Naughty in N’awlins for over 10 years, which has morphed into a "swingers pride parade".  It almost looks like a sexy political rally.

The only people who make less money when the swingers take over the own are the strippers.  But they do have strip-club take-overs, to great effect!

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37: 2 Girls, 1 City: Practical polyamory in London

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SinD and Victoria share their hazy recollections of a weekend together in London and debrief their raw feelings, straight from the heart: The fun of of partying, and the messiness of polyamory.

Subjects discussed:
  • Signing up for OkCupid, getting too many responses to manage
  • Getting the wrong address
  • Practical polyamory also involves talking to the wife and telling dinosaur adventures to the kids .
  • Rocking out in London dance clubs
  • 3-way make-outs
  • SinD hunting 18 year-olds, and going into "Wicked tigger" mode
  • Trying to dampen sexual frustration with Mc Donald's food (Hint: It doesn't work!)
  • Leaving the kids with blue balls
  • Jealousy (Or just trying to fit in)
  • Organizing threesomes can be more complicated than initially expected
  • The girls define their sexuality as "situational"
  • How abuse as a child impacts the feelings and decisions later in life
  • A relationship with a married man
  • Lessons learned and tips for those starting in polyamory

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34: Kink.com, Folsom Street Faire, adopting a pet

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upper floor SlaveAnother  "recap episode", where SinD and Jon try to remember all the adventures since last time!  First up is BondCon, a new conference at "The Armory", home of "Kink.com".  We meet various famous educators, but the misses was most impressed with "Thraje" and Cléo Dubois, and the single-tail whipping skills of "Disciple".

We visit Folsom Street Faire and interview random victims (to great amusement).  It turns out that bi-males do exist!

Misses also adopted a (human submissive) pet, and took her to a swingers party.  This put a spotlight on the differences between protocols and appropriate behavior between the swinger and BDSM/kink communities.    In the later, there is a more strict enforcement of the "ask for consent first" rule, which sometimes gets forgotten by the experienced swingers.  Also,  one has to make sure that one scene does not take so long that one doesn't get laid.  "Cock-blocking" may have occurred, and  Jon got the woman with "worlds most impressive ass" in trouble.

We use Google Calendar to schedule play-dates/training sessions.  Does that mean we are now poly?

Featured podcast: The Swing Wife (Podfaded)

 

30: Kama sutra revisited: Lily does India

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Mister Bill interviews Lilly Leithart, who just got back from spending an entire year in India.  She reviews not just the tourist spots, temples and religious rituals, but also tests out the sexual habits and prowess of the locals.  There wasn't a boat, beach or monument that was safe from her exploits.

This month's' recommendation is  "The hidden swing" podcast.

 

 

Reporting back from Desire

(Yes, this post is long overdue.  Life happens)

We just returned from a fabulous time at Desire Cancun, and I absolutely need to pass on the advise and observations.

Tips

  1. Talk to everybody you meet.  Yes, everybody.  This is the single best thing you can do.  Yes, that includes people that are not your type.
  2. Start early.  When you arrive, drop off the bags in the room chug down a water from the fridge.  Go to the hot-tub area, strip and dive in.  Order a drink.  See also: Step 1.
  3. Don't drink too much.   Really.  Alcohol should be a tool, not destination.
  4. If you really want alcohol, order wine.   The rest of the alcoholic drinks are watered down; That's not "being cheap", that's "looking out for you".  Believe me.
  5. Book a massage by Claudia. People almost get into fights to get an appointment, so book early.
  6.  Regardless of the outfit, there should always be a spot for an "emergency condom".
  7. Never run when you’re scared.
  8. Sunscreen.  Always.
  9. Never turn down body shots.
  10. Bring a small flashlight to the playroom.

Quotes

I can testify on each of these:

She's already out there hitting on people on she doesn't yet have my cum out of her mouth! What a trooper!

There is a market for alcohol free vegan body shots.

How do vegans give blowjobs? Does it count as animal product?

 No, we are not married.   Well, yes, we are, but not to each-other.   Theses and these are together.  Sorry about the confusion.

Wait: You are selling leather artwork here, but you didn't bring the chaps.  Didn't they tell you beforehand what kind of place this is?

(To a newbie couple) "An orgy is just like that threesome, just with more people"

Excuse me, this bed has a 2 orgasm minimum.

Holiday Pictures: Clear Communication

During our visit to Belgium, we took the kids (and parents) for a stay in a nice romantic hotel in the historical center of Brussels.

This is what we found next door:


Yep. A honest to god swingers club.

Things of note:

  • The prime real estate location, in one of the most "touristy" places in Europe.
  • The clear markings. There is no doubt that this is a swingers club (and not the dancing kind either), in full few of the public. Nobody seems to mind or care.
  • The "hours of operation" on the door show that this a 7/7 operation.

In the US, most clubs I have seen have "speakeasy" feeling of hidden locations and schedules, and are usually frowned upon visiting. It's refreshing to see that there are other points of view out there.