The Diet Dom: Lose Weight, Feel Great, Be Healthy

I have been roller coaster dieting all of my life.  Accountability has always been an issue.   I never imagined Rev. Jon would end up being my "Diet Dom" as I started calling him as a joke.  I've learned that a Dom can show you magical bliss but he/she can also act as a life coach and teacher.  A great Dom will use his power over you for more than pleasure. He/she will use their power to better you and care for you in ways you may not be able to accept from someone else.

Healthy Goals

One day Rev. Jon asked me if I was working on any personal goals. We had a very casual conversation where I expressed my desire to take better care of myself and be healthier.   In late September I was chatting with him and told him that my work place was filled with chocolate which coworkers had brought in and how I was feeling weak and wanting to blow my healthy diet. He simply said “Don’t do it!”  It came across as a command to me and I felt it in my gut. Since that day I have not eaten a single piece of chocolate at my work.  When I look at chocolate all I can think is “Don’t do it!”
We started with the chocolate but now many of my health goals are included.   I am now taking vitamins, drinking more water, eating healthy (with one cheat day), going to the gym 5 days a week,  I’ve given up diet soda and most recently given up the Splenda sugar substitute in my coffee.  Some of these items I set the parameter for and Rev. Jon reinforces and other things he has asked me to do to support my healthy goals.

Tracking

Rev. Jon does not request information from me daily but I know he may ask me about my eating or Fitbit tracking at any time. I agreed to notify him of any stumbles on my diet or exercise. This helps me be accountable and successful in reaching my goals.  He has also asked me to wear a rubber bracelet (the kind you get from charities).  If I consider breaking a goal I am to snap the bracelet to bring me out of compulsion to the awareness of my goals.

Slip-Ups

I try to be the perfect sub and follow the rules but sometimes I make mistakes. One night while out with friends on a day that was not a sanctioned junk food day I ate 4 large greasy onion rings.  I didn’t even look at the rubber bracelet.  The next morning I promptly told Rev. Jon that I blew my diet.  We had never discussed how he would reinforce my goals if I made a mistake.  I never asked because I didn’t think I would blow it.  I thought he would be disappointed and probably lecture me.

 

Punishment

First thing he told me is that it was ok.  I had a lot of anxiety at that moment so it was exactly what I needed to hear. The anxiety comes not from fearing him but from feeling that I may have disappointed him.  He asked me several questions about the situation that led to me crashing my diet. There was no anger and no lecture.  I was asked if I was ready to know what my punishment was.  That question froze me in place and I waited for the next text to arrive. Four days without orgasm and that night I was to bring myself to the brink of orgasm and stop.

For me, since I am a very sexual person and engage in almost daily masturbation the punishment felt severe. Still I didn’t argue or plead my case.  That isn’t what a good sub does.  I kept in mind that his ultimate goal is to guide me and teach me.  It was a tough four days and during that time I couldn’t help but to ask for a reprieve. I wasn’t upset when he said no and I actually respect him more for it even though I hoped for a yes.

At the end of the fourth day I saw him.  I was anxious that my failure would be brought up and that I would feel bad about it.  In most relationships when someone fails and lets the other person down it is often dredged up over and over.

When I saw him we had short discussion and it was finished because I had successfully completed the punishment.    Sure, it may come up as a reminder but there is no emotional battering when a mistake is made.  With the right Dom/sub relationship dynamic you both move on no anger, no grudges, and no guilt.  The level of productive communication and validation is very healthy and conducive to happiness and growth for both people.

Rev. Jon reminds me of my goals and keeps me on track. I have lost  about 4 pant sizes and running three miles in less than 30 minutes.  I am healthier now than I have been in years! Even my bloodwork is reflecting the differences.  Besides the health benefits Rev. Jon adds  a fun bonus by setting challenges where I get to choose a reward for success.

A Dom can be so much more than someone who plays naughty games with you.  A Dom can offer you support, guidance, and that extra nudge no one else in your life quite has the power to do.  The goals I have reached under Rev. Jon's guidance have been on my list for several years.  Though I have chosen to surrender to Rev. Jon he empowers me as a person to reach my goals and be better than the person I was.  I am very thankful to him for the care and time he takes to help me.  I can't wait to see what I can accomplish by his side or should I say at his feet.

Mrs. Puppy

Fantasy to Fetish

The Fantasy

Fantasies can become a reality with the right person.  Sir (Rev. Jon) is all about fulfilling fantasies.   One day he asked if I had any particular fantasies I might like to try. I laughed and jokingly said “Yes, someday I want to ride you wearing a collar and a leash”.  I didn’t think it would ever happen.

The night we recorded Puppies and Massages,  Rev.  Jon brought the collar and leash out for the first time.  We had just finished recording and he started the session by placing the collar around my neck then leading me across the room to the spanking bench.  Being so new to BDSM, I wasn’t sure if I was mortified or turned on but I went with it. My fantasy became a reality and as I let go it was hot wearing the collar which reminded me I was his submissive.

The next day I wasn’t sure how I felt about the collar.  There my feelings were in contradiction, embarrassment that I had worn leash yet had been sexually turned on by it.  I told Sir that I didn’t think I was ready for the thick collar that I had tried. I asked that if we ever tried a collar again that it be something much thinner.   He suggested that I pick something out that I was comfortable with.  I was so happy that he was flexible about letting me explore my fantasy.

The Training Collar

I admit, the collar started out a fantasy and not something I really understood the power of.  I went to Petco and selected this little narrow leather collar.  I thought it would be cute so I had a dog tag made. It said Mrs. Puppy on one side and "If found Return to Rev. Jon" on the other.   I gave it to him in a gift bag at dinner at the Lazy Dog restaurant  (yes, we actually ate there).  He seemed amused but had this familiar look that he gives me that lets me know I have no idea what is in store for me. I literally didn’t have much intention of wearing it at the time. I thought we would play with it once in awhile when the mood struck.

Before I knew it this little collar which I jokingly selected became part of our ritual to start our scene. Though Rev. Jon engages with me with or without a collar when he places the collar around my neck he is making his intentions clear that he will be taking over control and I will fully surrender during the time I am wearing it.

A few weeks ago I wore the collar to a party and several people thought it was adorable and admired the tag. I felt so proud to wear what I once thought of as a silly fantasy.  At the party we were fully engaged as Dom and sub and the meaning of the collar continued to gain significance for me.

The Perfect Collar

Around that time we discussed my collar and he agreed that it was time for something a little thicker with a little more design.   At his suggestion I started looking online.  I thought he would want to pick the collar but he wanted me to pick something that felt special to me.  He recommended LiquidNymph because they make high quality custom collars. I went to their online shop on Etsy and admired so many collars. I kept trying to get Sir to give me direction but he merely said the collar I chose had to speak to me.

When I chose the first collar at Petco, I was only focused on what I could handle to wear and really wasn’t serious about it. This time I felt like I was making a huge decision.  To pick the perfect collar wasn’t just about me and what I liked or how I felt.  I wanted a collar Sir would be proud for me to wear as his sub.  I wanted something that was sophisticated but not so fancy it camouflaged the fact that I was wearing a collar.  It took me a few weeks but I found the perfect collar at LiquidNymph.  Kristy Hatton, the designer of my collar was quick to respond to questions about sizing.  She even made sure to contact me after my order was placed to ask my neck measurement so they could remove any excess material to make the collar fit me perfectly.  My collar was delivered in about 4 days. It was packaged beautifully in a small black mesh bag which included a thank you card. I couldn’t wait for Rev. Jon to place it around my neck.  When he did, it fit perfectly and I could tell it was the right choice by the way he looked at me.   I can’t wait to wear it to an event! 

What I once saw as a silly little fantasy has become an important symbol and ritualistic fetish with deep meaning.  When Rev. Jon places that beautifully crafted collar around my neck I know I am his if even for a short time. My passionate surrender ignited by that little snap and the question that follows “Are you ready for this?”

 

 

 

 

Serendipitous Euphoria

It is amazing how opening myself to one experience has caused me to stumble into an entirely different state of being that often involves unexplainable feelings of euphoria.  I discussed the magic I experience in my previous post "Magical Surrender".

For one to understand the totality of that magic elaboration is needed.

The Count

It all started with “The Count”.  I am not referring to the one on Sesame Street, instead I am referring to the countdown to orgasm.  In my first experience with Rev. Jon the rule was to ask for an orgasm.  The first time I asked in the session he said I could cum if I counted to 10.  The task seemed impossible and I failed miserably as you probably heard  about in Puppies and Massages.

In my orgasmic state, after all of the overwhelming sensations, I couldn’t remember how to count to 10.  I could not focus on anything other than the intense pleasure I was experiencing.   Still I thought he was having fun with me and that it was just this little game. I didn’t realize it was training that leads to an unimaginable possibility.

The weeks following that intense first session I was asked to count to 10 before allowing myself to orgasm during masturbation.  I did what Rev. Jon said although I felt silly but I did not question his order.  I failed many times but soon I was counting to 10 the majority of the time.  After a few weeks of training the counting began to inspire the orgasm rather than permit it.

Commanded to Pleasure

One day I received a text message from Rev. Jon that said “I want you to count down and cum”.

When I read the message I agonized. I knew that what he was requesting wasn’t possible.

I was sure couldn't cum by counting and no physical stimulation.

I am not a liar who could pretend, even to satisfy a man I wish to please.

Shortly after, I saw numbers being texted to me and as the count hit 1 he texted “CUM NOW!”.

I stared at the message and felt as though this wave of energy came over my crown washing down and over me.   Immediately a wealth of endorphins rushed through my body and the level of sexual stimulation that ran through me caught me off guard.  I was left shaking, panting, and confused.  Unlike an orgasm stimulated through the clitoris or G-spot where the stimulation begins in the sex organs and releases chemicals from the brain it was a reversal.  My brain set off the chemicals and my sex organs responded. The sensation ran down my body instead of up my body is the best way to describe it. At this point, If Rev. Jon texts or orders me to cum in person it does not matter what I am doing or who I am in front of I will cum on command.  The level of euphoria that comes with this orgasm is much higher than a physically stimulated orgasm and the after effects last for hours.

I can’t explain how or why I can cum on command when he gives the order or why I experience such a chemical release that leads me into a euphoric state.   Rev. Jon may have the answers to how this works. Perhaps a great Dom just like a great magician never reveals their secrets.

I can only explain it as magical because the experience doesn’t fall into a category of anything I have ever thought was possible.  If I could bottle this experience and sell it, the world would be hooked.   Since  I can't sell the experience in a bottle, I hope that you will be encouraged to delve into this magical world on your own.  I had met several people who engaged in BDSM before I had this experience but no one shared their intricate details.

Perhaps because it is so powerful, it is hard to describe or maybe people feel it would be unbelieveable to others to describe something like orgasm on command.  Since I had no clue how wonderful it could be and I didn't go looking for a Dom it was all a beautiful accident to meet Rev. Jon and begin this journey with him.   I am so thankful to him for teaching me and giving me these experiences. I am so excited to see what will come next.   I can’t wait to share more with all of you.

Mrs. Puppy

Magical Surrender

"Me Submit? Never!"

I once said that.

I can tell you that every man I know has the same reaction when they listen to the Puppies and Massages episode of Bliss Bringers. They cannot believe that I would try having a submissive experience. In general, I have a very dominant personality and am the type to take control in almost every situation. I admit that there was a time that I thought only weak-willed or meek people could surrender to such an experience.

I've discussed this topic with many people and that seems to be a common misconception, especially with people outside of the swing lifestyle. BDSM is still not very mainstream despite the huge success of 50 Shades of Grey. That book is a sad misrepresentation of BDSM and what it is that fuels the enjoyment of surrender or appeal of domination.

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43: Flogging and Lusting in Las Vegas

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Our gang hits "Fetish and Fantasy" again in Las Vegas.

There is a lot of  spanking and flogging going on stage, as usual.

This year, we have some extra complications:

  • A gang of "hashers" takes over the hotel and causes havoc while our gang is trying to recover from their own naughty but exhausting activities
  • Mr. Bill brought along a vanilla friend, who has no idea what is going on.  She gets dunked in our pool of debauchery, while we hope she doesn't drown in the craziness.
    Spoiler: She does fine!
    We even interview her before and after her experience, which leads to interesting insight into how outsiders view the world of swinging and BDSM, and how the view changes after exposure.

Kinky Tip: How to hide your sex furniture hooks

In our brand-spanking new Youtube channel, Jon explains how to hide the hook that is needed to hang your sex/kinky furniture (like a sex swing, bondage ring or suspension gear) and make it totally invisible to your snooping family members or friends.

 

Check out the video above, or on the Youtube channel.  Make sure to subscribe.

Most importantly: What tips do you have that can benefit the community?  Post it in the comments.Sharing is caring!

 

Well fuck you too, Google!

Google-censorDear Google,

We had a nice blog on the "blogger" service for many years, but it is time we break up.  We took the beatings long enough, without consent.

Reason 1: Google adsense is disallowed on adult sites

The terms and conditions for "Adsense", one of the most well-paying advertising platforms, prohibits it being used on our blogs.   This cuts us out of a major income opportunity.

Reason 2: Blocking advertising on "adult blogs"

In 2013, Google prohibited our blogs from having advertisers.  Adsense was already blocked, and this made sure we were not getting paid any other way.

Reason 3: De-ranking adult content from search results

Also in 2013, the search algorithms were changed to decrease visibility of pages having any sort of adult content (in word or in picture).  This made it even harder for us to be found.

Reason 4: Google killed all the "erotic" apps in the play store.

In 2014, we released our own podcast-app, in the Google play store.  It contained not a single picture, not a single dirty word.  However, we still got banned, because it played our podcasts.  The fact that there are a multitude of podcast applications out there that do the exact same thing didn't dissuade them.

Further irony: I built the Life On the Swingset app as well, using the exact same code, and it is still being sold.

Our application can now be found on the Amazon app store.

Reason 5: Blogs are made "private"

This is the latest:

Dear Blogger User,

We're writing to tell you about an upcoming change to the Blogger Content Policy that may affect your account.

In the coming weeks, we'll no longer allow blogs that contain sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video. We'll still allow nudity presented in artistic, educational, documentary, or scientific contexts, or where there are other substantial benefits to the public from not taking action on the content.

After this policy goes into effect, Google will restrict access to any blog identified as being in violation of our revised policy. No content will be deleted, but only blog authors and those with whom they have expressly shared the blog will be able to see the content we've made private.

Our records indicate that your account may be affected by this policy change. Please refrain from creating new content that would violate this policy. Also, we ask that you make any necessary changes to your existing blog to comply as soon as possible, so that you won't experience any interruptions in service.

Our SFCuties blog did not contain any nudity, but is still affected.

What does this mean?

Once a blog is made "private", it means that it basically has "fallen off the internet".  Only people who we manually invite will be to view it, if they try hard enough.   In other words: No more visitors.

Furthermore, those who running a podcast from their blog will have even more issues: If iTunes cannot access the site, the RSS feed becomes broken, and the music dies.

What are we going to do about this?  We have moved all the content from the other blogs into this one, so that it may live on, and will be killing off the Google properties.

We (and most in the sex positive community) got the message loud and clear, and are packing our bags and heading out of the Google apartment.

For further reading on the subject, I recommend the write up "Google's sex censorhip timeline" from the ever magnificent (and not mention incredibly sexy) Violet Blue.