43: Flogging and Lusting in Las Vegas


Our gang hits "Fetish and Fantasy" again in Las Vegas.

There is a lot of  spanking and flogging going on stage, as usual.

This year, we have some extra complications:

  • A gang of "hashers" takes over the hotel and causes havoc while our gang is trying to recover from their own naughty but exhausting activities
  • Mr. Bill brought along a vanilla friend, who has no idea what is going on.  She gets dunked in our pool of debauchery, while we hope she doesn't drown in the craziness.
    Spoiler: She does fine!
    We even interview her before and after her experience, which leads to interesting insight into how outsiders view the world of swinging and BDSM, and how the view changes after exposure.

Kinky Tip: How to hide your sex furniture hooks

In our brand-spanking new Youtube channel, Jon explains how to hide the hook that is needed to hang your sex/kinky furniture (like a sex swing, bondage ring or suspension gear) and make it totally invisible to your snooping family members or friends.


Check out the video above, or on the Youtube channel.  Make sure to subscribe.

Most importantly: What tips do you have that can benefit the community?  Post it in the comments.Sharing is caring!


Well fuck you too, Google!

Google-censorDear Google,

We had a nice blog on the "blogger" service for many years, but it is time we break up.  We took the beatings long enough, without consent.

Reason 1: Google adsense is disallowed on adult sites

The terms and conditions for "Adsense", one of the most well-paying advertising platforms, prohibits it being used on our blogs.   This cuts us out of a major income opportunity.

Reason 2: Blocking advertising on "adult blogs"

In 2013, Google prohibited our blogs from having advertisers.  Adsense was already blocked, and this made sure we were not getting paid any other way.

Reason 3: De-ranking adult content from search results

Also in 2013, the search algorithms were changed to decrease visibility of pages having any sort of adult content (in word or in picture).  This made it even harder for us to be found.

Reason 4: Google killed all the "erotic" apps in the play store.

In 2014, we released our own podcast-app, in the Google play store.  It contained not a single picture, not a single dirty word.  However, we still got banned, because it played our podcasts.  The fact that there are a multitude of podcast applications out there that do the exact same thing didn't dissuade them.

Further irony: I built the Life On the Swingset app as well, using the exact same code, and it is still being sold.

Our application can now be found on the Amazon app store.

Reason 5: Blogs are made "private"

This is the latest:

Dear Blogger User,

We're writing to tell you about an upcoming change to the Blogger Content Policy that may affect your account.

In the coming weeks, we'll no longer allow blogs that contain sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video. We'll still allow nudity presented in artistic, educational, documentary, or scientific contexts, or where there are other substantial benefits to the public from not taking action on the content.

After this policy goes into effect, Google will restrict access to any blog identified as being in violation of our revised policy. No content will be deleted, but only blog authors and those with whom they have expressly shared the blog will be able to see the content we've made private.

Our records indicate that your account may be affected by this policy change. Please refrain from creating new content that would violate this policy. Also, we ask that you make any necessary changes to your existing blog to comply as soon as possible, so that you won't experience any interruptions in service.

Our SFCuties blog did not contain any nudity, but is still affected.

What does this mean?

Once a blog is made "private", it means that it basically has "fallen off the internet".  Only people who we manually invite will be to view it, if they try hard enough.   In other words: No more visitors.

Furthermore, those who running a podcast from their blog will have even more issues: If iTunes cannot access the site, the RSS feed becomes broken, and the music dies.

What are we going to do about this?  We have moved all the content from the other blogs into this one, so that it may live on, and will be killing off the Google properties.

We (and most in the sex positive community) got the message loud and clear, and are packing our bags and heading out of the Google apartment.

For further reading on the subject, I recommend the write up "Google's sex censorhip timeline" from the ever magnificent (and not mention incredibly sexy) Violet Blue.


Sex & the Heart

Did you ever wonder how much of a workout you get during a good session of sex?   I did.  And now, thanks to the Fitbit bracelet with built-in heart rate and activity monitor, anybody can find out.

 FitbitSessionYes, you can have your fuck-session graphed in glorious colors.


  • All this activity burned about as much calories as in a small candy bar.
  • The part at the end where I am receiving a blowjob is clearly visible
  • Having an orgasm seems to be less impact-full to the heart rate than I expected

For optimal data gathering, I feel that both people should be wearing a heart rate monitor, so that we can compare activity levels.  Any geeky women out there that want to science?

Miss Victoria goes to Las Vegas

Hello, how do you do? My name is Victoria S. I live in London, England. I used to know very little about ‘alternative lifestyles’, beyond a couple of sex and fetish parties I might have gone to just to stare. And reading Fifty Shades. Yes, I confess, I read it. In my defense, I thought it was rubbish.

Fetish & Fantasy Ball 2014My curiosity built over a couple of years back home, but I didn’t really get a chance to engage more proactively until this year. You know how it starts: a bit of vanilla spanking, you like how it feels… You buy some kinky boots because they make you feel sexy, you find a party to go to where you can wear them… And before you know it, you’re flogging behinds at the annual Fetish and Fantasy Halloween Ball in Las Vegas!

It all started in earnest at Burning Man this year. I went there with Mister Bill, whom I had met there last year, and a bunch of his friends from Dragon’s Gate. That’s how I had the pleasure of meeting the full cast from Bliss Bringers: Mistress SinD, Reverend Jon, Professor Tea and The Captain.

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50 shades again...



Yes, we know that the trailer to "Fifty shades of grey" is released.

Just like when the books series was at peak hype, we get asked a lot for opinions on this, so here's a handy reference list.

  • What do you think about the movie?
    It will probably suck mildly, yet make millions.
  • What did you think about the books?
    They are mediocre porn, with bad story-telling.
  • What about the BDSM in the books?
    It was written by somebody who's entire experience seems to consist of a few hours on Google.  Some of the items really exist, but are put way out of context or use in an unrealistic fashion.
  • How do you feel about this release?


Love it.

The practicality of the BDSM in it is bollocks.  People who use them as a handbook for "the BDSM lifestyle" are going to have a bad time, but so do people who use porn as sex-ed.   It's sensationalized, exaggerated and shoe-horned into a story line.

But that doesn't really matter.

The important part is:  This book series and movie (series?) makes BDSM and kink approachable as  it gets dragged into central stage for a while.  This will do something that the sex-positive community can't dream to accomplish: Expose millions to the fact that "alternative lifestyles" do exists and are worth exploring.

I can tolerate the companies wanting to make a quick buck by selling "50 shades" branded merchandise.  Once it breaks, we can direct the people to  the Stockroom to buy real gear.  A bunch of people will be curious about all this, and Google may drive some of them into our community.  Yes, most of them will be too scared to attend a "munch" (a "meet&greet"), but they may read a book or listen to a podcast...  and a percentage of those will make the jump.

We will be there with open arms, flogger in hand.

Oh, it also gets us laid more. 🙂