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We have an in-depth conversation with porn producer, performer, coach, kinkster, a multifaceted businesswoman, a mother of three, a clinical mental health therapist, gerontologist, adult film star and all-round awesome person "Jet Setting Jasmine".
We talk about a multiple subjects that are near and dear not just to the black BDSM community, but everybody in alternative lifestyle like swingers, poly or kinksters.
Black people have been mentally and physically abused in the past, and some care that trauma with them Think about the optics of suspending somebody from a tree or using a whip in public. How can we as a dominant improve our skills and be mindful of these issues.
Swinger parties and events:
Does your ad copy have people of color or full-bodied people in it?
If not, how are they going to feel welcome?
Talking to your children about sex:
Don't tell them anything inappropriate, but don't hide the need for adults to have intimacy or the right for everybody to have pleasure and bodily autonomy
Shitty music in dungeons:
Really? Does it have to "nosebleed central" loud crappy metal to create an atmosphere? What if people actually want to talk or -gasp- have a negotiation talk before a scene?
Skin color in kink:
Bruising and discoloration during as scene is nearly impossible to see. How to check for problems. Also: Dungeon lighting: a bit of dark can be romantic, too much makes it dangerous.
BDSM and Therapy:
A dom-sub relationship can beneficial for all involved, provide structure and help work through existing traumas. Persons with old traumas can use BDSM negotiation techniques to work out a protocol that will gradually desensitize themselves so they can end up with better intimacy and sex lives.
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We gave the our roaming reporters (the Mr. and Mrs. Puppy) the microphones and let them run amok during Folsom Street Faire in San Francisco.
They talk to people on a range of subjects: Whips, choosing floggers, pony play, "puppy play" and a whole bunch of kink.
Contact us and let us know where you will be during the next Folsom!
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The gang debriefs from Naughty in Nawlins and Mr. Puppy gives advise on how to behave on swinger dating sites. How to create a profile, how to respond.
If you have any questions you would like to hear answered, just ask.
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Part 2 of our Naughty in Nawlins visit:
We interviewed Organic Loven and a bunch of visitors, each with their own vision on swinging, kink and sexuality, and close it up by dragging the couple from "Ecstatic Hearts" into our bed for interview on tantra, sacred sexuality, and improving and extending your orgasms thru specific techniques and vocalisations.
Want to join in the fun at NiN? Make sure to grab your room before they sell out!
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During Naughty in Nawlins 2017 (one of the largest swingers events, in New Orleans), misses Puppy and Jon ran into our instructor for the "erotic wrestling" class. She turned out to very cute, great a giving lapdances and an all-round awesome person. We sat down and chatted about kink, polyamory, bi-sexuality, penis size, wrestling, stripping (including "pole burn") and porn.
Andre Shakti is a journalist, educator, performer, activist, and professional slut living in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is devoted to normalizing alternative desires, de-stigmatizing sex workers and their clients, and not taking herself too seriously. Andre wrestles mediocre white men into submission and writes about sex work, queerness and non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan, Thrillist, MEL, Vice, and more. She can frequently be found marathoning Law & Order: SVU under a chaotic pile of partners and pitbulls, and yes, she knows how problematic that show is. Visit her on Twitter @andreshakti, on FB as “Andre Shakti”, and at
Shout-out to podcast "Two or More to Tango"
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Exploring polyamory, BDSM and kink in the swinging lifestyle.
We catch up with Mr. and Misses Puppy (see previous episodes for background). The first interview is right after a hotel playdate with Mr, Misses Puppy, and L a.k.a. "Mr. Puppy's new toy".
In second part, debrief with "Nightowl", the poor massage therapist (and general fun kinky guy) that SinD corrupted.
We go over the difference between the different lifestyles: swinging versus polyamory, BDSM communication styles versus those used in the swinging lifestyle. Jon explains and demos some of his secret techniques on air on Misses Puppy.
Yes, there was wine consumed during the taping. 🙂
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We had an interesting discussion with Lee Harrington, author of an eclectic set of books. His latest is "Traversing Gender", which provides a "newbies guide to other genders", with many references throughout the world and history. It also reviews the differences between all the various terms like "transgender", "transsexual", "trans", "intersex" and a multitude of others.
As a transgender person, the realities of "play" in both the swinging or BDSM lifestyles is completely different and very challenging. Lee explains the differences in treatment of transgender folk throughout the years, and his own transition.
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Our gang hits "Fetish and Fantasy" again in Las Vegas.
There is a lot of spanking and flogging going on stage, as usual.
This year, we have some extra complications:
- A gang of "hashers" takes over the hotel and causes havoc while our gang is trying to recover from their own naughty but exhausting activities
- Mr. Bill brought along a vanilla friend, who has no idea what is going on. She gets dunked in our pool of debauchery, while we hope she doesn't drown in the craziness.
Spoiler: She does fine!
We even interview her before and after her experience, which leads to interesting insight into how outsiders view the world of swinging and BDSM, and how the view changes after exposure.
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For your listening pleasure, we have a bunch of different subjects.
Jon and SinD head to Los Angeles again to hang out with Mister Bill. While Jon gets busy with one of his favorite play partners, the rest of the gang talks about the history of BDSM in L.A. This goes all the way back to the early days of "Society of Janus", "Presidium" and Treshold, when it was just a couple of kinky people playing around in a rented X-rated movie studio.
We lured the makers of "SportSheets" (we interviewed and tested the product previously) to Dragons gate.
We are taking the violet wand to Burning Man to zap people in the dessert!
There are plenty of other random discussions, gummy bears and reviews of Jon's performance as a swinger.
Bill interviews Ernest Greene (and his wife, Nina Hartley) about his newest book, "Master of O" and they trade anecdotes from way back in time (around when they invented rope).
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We got ourselves a few drinks and head for the hot tub, for our every own "bath-cast" (our homage to the Kapers), and debrief about our sexy adventures at the yearly swingers retreat. Some of the stories involve spanking and flogging. Continue reading