We have an in-depth conversation with porn producer, performer, coach, kinkster, a multifaceted businesswoman, a mother of three, a clinical mental health therapist, gerontologist, adult film star and all-round awesome person "Jet Setting Jasmine".
We talk about a multiple subjects that are near and dear not just to the black BDSM community, but everybody in alternative lifestyle like swingers, poly or kinksters.
Black people have been mentally and physically abused in the past, and some care that trauma with them Think about the optics of suspending somebody from a tree or using a whip in public. How can we as a dominant improve our skills and be mindful of these issues.
Swinger parties and events:
Does your ad copy have people of color or full-bodied people in it?
If not, how are they going to feel welcome?
Talking to your children about sex:
Don't tell them anything inappropriate, but don't hide the need for adults to have intimacy or the right for everybody to have pleasure and bodily autonomy
Shitty music in dungeons:
Really? Does it have to "nosebleed central" loud crappy metal to create an atmosphere? What if people actually want to talk or -gasp- have a negotiation talk before a scene?
Skin color in kink:
Bruising and discoloration during as scene is nearly impossible to see. How to check for problems. Also: Dungeon lighting: a bit of dark can be romantic, too much makes it dangerous.
BDSM and Therapy:
A dom-sub relationship can beneficial for all involved, provide structure and help work through existing traumas. Persons with old traumas can use BDSM negotiation techniques to work out a protocol that will gradually desensitize themselves so they can end up with better intimacy and sex lives.