Magical Surrender

"Me Submit? Never!"

I once said that.

I can tell you that every man I know has the same reaction when they listen to the Puppies and Massages episode of Bliss Bringers. They cannot believe that I would try having a submissive experience. In general, I have a very dominant personality and am the type to take control in almost every situation. I admit that there was a time that I thought only weak-willed or meek people could surrender to such an experience.

I've discussed this topic with many people and that seems to be a common misconception, especially with people outside of the swing lifestyle. BDSM is still not very mainstream despite the huge success of 50 Shades of Grey. That book is a sad misrepresentation of BDSM and what it is that fuels the enjoyment of surrender or appeal of domination.

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43: Flogging and Lusting in Las Vegas


Our gang hits "Fetish and Fantasy" again in Las Vegas.

There is a lot of  spanking and flogging going on stage, as usual.

This year, we have some extra complications:

  • A gang of "hashers" takes over the hotel and causes havoc while our gang is trying to recover from their own naughty but exhausting activities
  • Mr. Bill brought along a vanilla friend, who has no idea what is going on.  She gets dunked in our pool of debauchery, while we hope she doesn't drown in the craziness.
    Spoiler: She does fine!
    We even interview her before and after her experience, which leads to interesting insight into how outsiders view the world of swinging and BDSM, and how the view changes after exposure.

Kinky Tip: How to hide your sex furniture hooks

In our brand-spanking new Youtube channel, Jon explains how to hide the hook that is needed to hang your sex/kinky furniture (like a sex swing, bondage ring or suspension gear) and make it totally invisible to your snooping family members or friends.


Check out the video above, or on the Youtube channel.  Make sure to subscribe.

Most importantly: What tips do you have that can benefit the community?  Post it in the comments.Sharing is caring!


Well fuck you too, Google!

Google-censorDear Google,

We had a nice blog on the "blogger" service for many years, but it is time we break up.  We took the beatings long enough, without consent.

Reason 1: Google adsense is disallowed on adult sites

The terms and conditions for "Adsense", one of the most well-paying advertising platforms, prohibits it being used on our blogs.   This cuts us out of a major income opportunity.

Reason 2: Blocking advertising on "adult blogs"

In 2013, Google prohibited our blogs from having advertisers.  Adsense was already blocked, and this made sure we were not getting paid any other way.

Reason 3: De-ranking adult content from search results

Also in 2013, the search algorithms were changed to decrease visibility of pages having any sort of adult content (in word or in picture).  This made it even harder for us to be found.

Reason 4: Google killed all the "erotic" apps in the play store.

In 2014, we released our own podcast-app, in the Google play store.  It contained not a single picture, not a single dirty word.  However, we still got banned, because it played our podcasts.  The fact that there are a multitude of podcast applications out there that do the exact same thing didn't dissuade them.

Further irony: I built the Life On the Swingset app as well, using the exact same code, and it is still being sold.

Our application can now be found on the Amazon app store.

Reason 5: Blogs are made "private"

This is the latest:

Dear Blogger User,

We're writing to tell you about an upcoming change to the Blogger Content Policy that may affect your account.

In the coming weeks, we'll no longer allow blogs that contain sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video. We'll still allow nudity presented in artistic, educational, documentary, or scientific contexts, or where there are other substantial benefits to the public from not taking action on the content.

After this policy goes into effect, Google will restrict access to any blog identified as being in violation of our revised policy. No content will be deleted, but only blog authors and those with whom they have expressly shared the blog will be able to see the content we've made private.

Our records indicate that your account may be affected by this policy change. Please refrain from creating new content that would violate this policy. Also, we ask that you make any necessary changes to your existing blog to comply as soon as possible, so that you won't experience any interruptions in service.

Our SFCuties blog did not contain any nudity, but is still affected.

What does this mean?

Once a blog is made "private", it means that it basically has "fallen off the internet".  Only people who we manually invite will be to view it, if they try hard enough.   In other words: No more visitors.

Furthermore, those who running a podcast from their blog will have even more issues: If iTunes cannot access the site, the RSS feed becomes broken, and the music dies.

What are we going to do about this?  We have moved all the content from the other blogs into this one, so that it may live on, and will be killing off the Google properties.

We (and most in the sex positive community) got the message loud and clear, and are packing our bags and heading out of the Google apartment.

For further reading on the subject, I recommend the write up "Google's sex censorhip timeline" from the ever magnificent (and not mention incredibly sexy) Violet Blue.


Sex & the Heart

Did you ever wonder how much of a workout you get during a good session of sex?   I did.  And now, thanks to the Fitbit bracelet with built-in heart rate and activity monitor, anybody can find out.

 FitbitSessionYes, you can have your fuck-session graphed in glorious colors.


  • All this activity burned about as much calories as in a small candy bar.
  • The part at the end where I am receiving a blowjob is clearly visible
  • Having an orgasm seems to be less impact-full to the heart rate than I expected

For optimal data gathering, I feel that both people should be wearing a heart rate monitor, so that we can compare activity levels.  Any geeky women out there that want to science?

Miss Victoria goes to Las Vegas

Hello, how do you do? My name is Victoria S. I live in London, England. I used to know very little about ‘alternative lifestyles’, beyond a couple of sex and fetish parties I might have gone to just to stare. And reading Fifty Shades. Yes, I confess, I read it. In my defense, I thought it was rubbish.

Fetish & Fantasy Ball 2014My curiosity built over a couple of years back home, but I didn’t really get a chance to engage more proactively until this year. You know how it starts: a bit of vanilla spanking, you like how it feels… You buy some kinky boots because they make you feel sexy, you find a party to go to where you can wear them… And before you know it, you’re flogging behinds at the annual Fetish and Fantasy Halloween Ball in Las Vegas!

It all started in earnest at Burning Man this year. I went there with Mister Bill, whom I had met there last year, and a bunch of his friends from Dragon’s Gate. That’s how I had the pleasure of meeting the full cast from Bliss Bringers: Mistress SinD, Reverend Jon, Professor Tea and The Captain.

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